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How do I ask my partner for more physical intimacy?


Intro: Physical intimacy is a more critical part of any relationship than we give it credit for. An excellent intimate relationship signifies a healthy bond, stress-free relationship, and assured mental peace. But enough is not enough: when you want a more physically intimate relationship, you must put it forth to your partner without influencing their decision or crowding them to agree with you. Here are some ways to ask your partner for more physical intimacy without coming across as a jerk:

1. Develop emotional intimacy:

emotional intimacy

Before you go out and ask your partner to be more physical with you, it is a good idea to develop a strong emotional connection with your partner. Emotional intimacy refers to how close you are to your partner, how vulnerable you can be with each other, and how secure you feel in each other’s company. A relationship built with emotional intimacy has a certain woven quality and bonds that cannot be broken easily. One of the easiest ways to create emotional intimacy is by simply spending time with each other. Turn off your phones, and accompany each other while doing the simple tasks in and around your house. Once you know that the person is comfortable in your company, you will observe and know the person better. Talk to each other, cook, dance, play, go to the park, go grocery shopping, or simply shop together. With emotional intimacy backing you up, it would be easier to discuss the next step in the relationship: physical intimacy.

2. Get talking:

get talking

Once you have developed a strong emotional attachment, you might want to talk before you act. It is essential to get your partner’s consent before you make a move that might surprise your loved one into shock, simply because they were not expecting it. Create a safe space for you and your partner to discuss your relationship and the physical intimacy that follows. Hold their hands and let them know that you are ready to take it to the next level, and carefully ask if they feel the same way. Please do not rush it or shy away from it. Give your partner the space they need to make the right decision finally.

3. Communicate with actions:

Communicate with actions

If you have difficulty talking about it, you can signal to your partner about the dalliance you want to initiate. You can let your partner know that you are interested in “doing the dance with no pants” by subtly throwing in random acts of love and care for your partner to perceive and interpret accordingly. Studies show that even a light lip biting can induce sexual arousal in your partner. You can use this knowledge to your advantage and spread your feathers like a peacock to entice your partner to find you in the bedroom. Even a wink can mean telling your partner how much you want them. So, make sure to catch your partner’s eye and let them know your bedroom intentions beforehand.

4. Talk before sex:

Talk before sex

A conversation between both parties is one of the most important steps towards a satisfying sex life. When you let your partner know the intention of intimacy, it’s only an interest that you are expressing. Physical intimacy is more than a touch on the hand or a pat on the back. A lingering caress of love paves the way to the bedroom. Knowing what your partner likes and dislikes is essential before you make the ultimate move. Discuss your turn-ons and what you like during sex. Keep an open mind and an accepting attitude, so your partner does not feel uncomfortable during the talk.

5. Show them how to do it:

Show them how to do it

Asking more from your partner is okay, but they may be clueless about how to get you what you want in bed. It is, therefore, a good idea to show them how you want it to be done. Yes, you must teach them; by extension, it means you must know what you like before telling them. You may also show them what you like and what makes you go. You may also direct them as, and when needed so your partner does not get lost. The experience must also be enjoyable for your partner as they help you achieve your desires.

6. Talk after sex:

Talk after sex

The intimacy is excellent; you and your partner have great chemistry and intense emotional intimacy. But if you want more physical intimacy with your partner, you must express it instead of expecting it. A good time to talk about wanting more from your loved one is when you are relaxed and content with your partner. You may introduce the idea of more physical activity with your partner after round 1 as the chemistry is still hot and brewing. Also, the sex hormones running through your body will coax your partner to give you more love.

7. Try out new things:

Try out new things

There is more than one way you can ask your partner for more physical intimacy. One of the subtle ways is to put forth the idea of experimenting and trying out new things with each other. You may change the pace of your experience, prolonging the foreplay or seduction part or bring in a more drastic change as introducing your fantasies into the bedroom. You may also play out your partner’s fantasy or a kink to get them excited about trying new things. Share your vision of roleplaying or sexual reverie and ask them about theirs to understand their inner sexual desire and how they want to play it out.

8. Make yourself available:

Make yourself available

Now you know you want to have more of your partner, you crave physical intimacy, but you are busy with work most of the time and spend the rest socializing. How do you expect to create the physical intimacy you love and desire? You must prioritize your physical relationship and be available for your partner. It is a two-way street as you need to show up when your partner wants you to and when you desire it. Physical intimacy is bound to strengthen your relationship and increase your compatibility with your partner.


When you put forth your intentions correctly, asking for more intimacy is not an issue. More physical intimacy is known to repair relationships, create a strong connection and strengthen the bond you share with your loved one. With these tips, you are bound to make a good start on more physical intimacy and enjoy your relationship with your partner.

Boost The Physical Intimacy in Your Relationship


Intro: When we like a person, we factor in all the equations concerning how they behave, act, talk, and make you feel. But as the relationship moves on to the next phase, you might want to establish physical contact and intimacy with your partner. Accordingly, your conclusions might change completely, or your perceptions get modified as to how your partner is with intimacy in your relationship equation. Sex is an integral part of any long-lasting relationship. So how do you establish and boost physical intimacy that keeps the balance intact in your relationship? Here are some tips for you to heed to:

1. Make relationships your priority:

Make relationships your priority

If you know your relationship is losing its fire, it may not be because of a lack of love but because your priorities are shifting. As time passes, other aspects of your life may take a front row. But your partner and your relationship must have a permanent seat beside you. It is essential to prioritize your relationship without compromising your career, among other things. Make sure your partner receives the love and attention that they deserve. It plays an essential part in your physical relationship. When you feel loved and cared for, it gives an extra boost to your love life.

2. Seek out new experiences:

Seek out new experiences

Another way to boost your intimate relationship is to try out new things with your partner, in and outside your bedroom. Discover new things to experience and enjoy when you are out with your partner; it can be as little as trying out a new ice-cream flavor or as thrilling as camping, rock climbing, or motor racing. Adrenaline will boost your hormone production and blood flow throughout your body, including your genitals, increasing your sexual energy. You can use this adrenaline to pump up the heat in your bedroom and keep the intimacy flowing by seeking a new adrenaline rush.

3. Maintain your communication:

Maintain your communication
A carefree couple having fun and laughing while talking about something in the bedroom

One way to burn out in a relationship is by restricting communication to specific topics and allowing the relationship to stew in the toxic waste of unsaid things. Please communicate with your partner: tell them how you feel in this relationship, and confess to the hard stuff. Develop a safe space where you can listen and will also be heard. It would be best if you also talked about your kinks and what you want to try out before you act on them in your bedroom. Talk about the sex: the parts you liked in the past and want to do again, also your fantasies to cure your curiosity and light up your sex life. Words are one of the most potent philters that can only work in your favor.

4. Express your love:

Express your love
A carefree couple having fun and laughing while talking about something in the bedroom.

It feels good to be loved and appreciated by your partner. You must express your love to let them know they are cared for, admired, valued, and prioritized in your life. Be vulnerable with your partner, let yourself feel your attachment for them, and show them that they can depend on you and trust you. Building emotional intimacy is bound to reflect on your physical intimacy. As your partner knows that they are loved and accepted will make them more drawn to your touch, open to new experiences, and accept you, flaws and everything. Physical intimacy is only a matter of mood when you have tremendous emotional intimacy built beforehand.

5. Keep in touch:

Keep in touch
Carefree couple having fun and laughing while talking about something in the bedroom

It is impossible to keep in touch with your partner throughout the day as work restricts constant physical presence. But you can ensure your partner is never lonely with or without your presence. You can keep the communication lines open with your loved ones by texting small details to them, calling them once a day, and asking them how they are doing. It does not have to be a constant text chain that keeps you on the phone all day but tiny messages to let them know you are thinking about them. You can also leave small post-its for them to find. Hmm…wonder how this will lead to physical intimacy? Make those messages naughty. Tell them how much you want them and build tension through texting: We might be referring to sexting.

6. Establish physical contact:

Establish physical contact

You and your loved one must be comfortable with each other before you move on to the intimate phase of your relationship. Physical contact lays the foundation for everything that follows in your bedroom. Creating physical contact can help you understand the do’s and don’ts with your partner to guide you on every step. It allows you to set and stretch your limits with your loved one. You can begin with baby steps and gradually progress to expressing your love more intimately.

  • Hold hands: You can lightly entwine your fingers with your partner or hold on tightly to them, expressing how you feel about them.
  • Kiss: Kiss your partner gently to tell them how you appreciate them. Or kiss them hard to let them know how much you want them.
  • Cuddle: When you cuddle with your partner, you tell them how much they mean to you. Your partner feels safe and protected in your arms. They can also relax with you when you are watching a movie or going to sleep.
  • Caress: This type of lingering touch is introduced with the intention of arousal. It lets your partner feel what you are feeling for them.
  • Seduction: Before sex comes to the foreplay, and before foreplay comes to the seduction. You touch the arousal zones of your partner to induce their inner desires to come to the forefront. Seducing can also include creating sexual tension to make the experience more rewarding.
  • Foreplay: Foreplay preps your body for sex. Your touch in the erogenous zones releases hormones throughout the body, making you and your partner want each other more. Short foreplay is just enough, but extended foreplay builds tension, anticipation, and excitement.

7. Experiment with your partner:

Experiment with your partner

Find out what your partner likes and dislikes in bed. You may ask them or try to figure it out by experimenting and measuring their responses (Make sure you have your partner’s consent). You may also talk about your sexual fantasies and kinks. Both are excellent intimacy boosters as they appeal to the innermost desires of your partner. You may also experiment with roleplaying or playing out a situation according to your preference. You may also try changing the location for the thrill of doing it outside, on a boat, or in another private but legal space. You may also test out new toys and props like handcuffs to heighten the experience of the experiment.


In summary with these tips, you are bound to boost and reignite your passion for your partner. Intimacy is not just about being physical but encompasses a lot of emotional factors that we tried to cover here. One is not without the other when trying to make your relationship last longer. Communication is the key to making it last with your partner.


How To Fix Intimacy Problems In A Marriage


Couples are made in heaven. But how they stay on earth, in each other’s company, matters in this lifetime. When you choose a partner, you consider your emotional equation, physical attraction, compatibility, and how they make you feel. While all these factors are essential, the most important one is the intimacy or closeness that you feel for your partner. It is not limited to the sexual experience but also includes an emotional attachment, action and reaction, and of course, the sex. As time passes, these equations change, and we forget to correct them according to the changes in our lives. It is, therefore, vital that you focus on your sex life to bring balance to the relationship you have with your partner. Here are some tips to reignite the intimacy and fix any issues that you might be having in your love life: 

1. Emotional Intimacy: 

Emotional intimacy

You have to say, “This is how I feel, and I want you to know.” Emotional intimacy is getting in touch with your emotions and your partner’s feelings. You must know your true feelings and desires to develop an honest connection with your partner. Emotional closeness with your significant other can help you bring out and address your partner’s needs in a more leveled field where they can be vulnerable without feeling judged or overwhelmed. You can do this by being more loving, showing empathy, and not being defensive. Understand what they need from you and what they expect you to put in. 

2. Talk To Each Other:  

Talk to each other

Communication is the key to solving problems relating to all sectors of your life, including marriage. When you feel something that might affect your mental health or physical needs, you must communicate it with your partner, who must be equally open to a conversation. While you convey the message, your partner should receive it without getting defensive, aggressive, or passive-aggressive. The conversation must be in a safe environment without taking shots. Take turns to speak as you let your partner explain or express themselves in front of you. Remember, words can cut deep when used as weapons and bring tranquility when offered peacefully. 

3. Sex Chemistry:  

Sex chemistry

The high that comes with a new marriage doesn’t last forever… So, we’ve been told, when you are in love, the chemistry for sex comes easily. But as the time passes, you may grow immune to the touch that once would have sent electricity down your spine. It is essential that you do not let mundane life get into your bedroom. But you can also rekindle the sex chemistry with your partner by allowing them to experience your touch and following it with a passion that leads to the bed. Hugs, kisses, and hand holding are all affirmations that you can use to relight the chemistry by extending the time of each. Hold them a little bit longer to let them know your intentions.  

4. Change The Foreplay:  

Change the foreplay

Variation is the element that guarantees excitement and keeps your partner guessing and on their toes. Foreplay is an art that prepares your partner’s mind and body for the sex that’s going to follow. You can change how that leads to sex by surprising them with a risqué gesture or starting foreplay at random. Make sure you understand your partner’s trigger points and sex points that you must simulate to induce an appropriate reaction on their part. Fifty percent of intimacy is foreplay that your partner will remember; have signature moves that you know they like and indicate or convey your desires to have sex with your partner. You must allow your partner to reach the point of consent where they want to have intercourse with you. 

5. Allow Tension To Build:  

Allow tension to build

Sexual tension is the electricity between two lovers that leads to consummation (or not). The desire burns in both the partners that are sexually attracted to each other and want each other passionately. One way to evoke sexual tension is by teasing your partner till they are ready to explode. But it is not advisable to prolong the act as it may backfire. Sexual tension, more often than not, is foreplay, an act of seduction that lasts longer and makes the partners want each other more. It is, therefore, healthy to invoke sexual tension by seduction if you feel that the passion is burning away.  

6. Vary The Positions:  

Vary the positions

 Coming to the act of sex, you must know what your partner likes and dislikes. These conversations, although subtle, definitely take place during the act. You can tell if your partner is enjoying it; likewise, you can tell if your partner is not happy. You can also be direct and ask your partner what they enjoy and dislike in bed before pulling moves that might surprise your significant other. When you want to try something new, it’s a good idea to run it with your spouse instead of surprising them. Bringing new things to your bedroom must be a consensual decision where the two partners agree.  

7. Enact The Fantasies:  

Vary the positions

Another advantage of communicating with your partner is getting well-acquainted with your partner’s needs, desires, turn-ons, and fantasies. Fantasies are simulations based on characters or situations to play out a sex fancy that may enhance the experience. It might be a character fantasy where one partner or both partners dress up, also known as roleplaying or cosplaying. Situation fantasy is based on the instances played out by imaginary characters and is an extension of roleplaying. Establishing boundaries and rules to regulate and put checkpoints is essential so that none of the others gets carried away. Seeking new experiences might be what your marriage needs to get the amber all burning.  

8. Make sex a priority: 

Make sex a priority

While you may try hundreds of ways, none of which are centered on sex, you might as well be watering the thorns. It is essential to focus on sex to fix the intimacy problems in your marriage. You must put your partner on the priority list and keep evolving based on the new data collected in your marriage. The transformation may take a while to manifest, but the results will come before everything. You must put in the effort and enjoy the company of your partner for your marriage to last a lifetime.  


Love never dies. We hand over the reins to wild horses. It is essential to take control and refocus your intentions with your partner. You will see a happy, satisfied couple in the mirror when you begin putting in the effort. These tips will help you regain the intimacy you might have lost and keep your partner wanting more from you.